Scary Thoughts
Looking at the blog's date, the last entry was posted on the 16th of August.
Apparently, 5 days has passed by since I last posted but I did not even realise that it has been such a long time already. This is a good illustration of what is going on.
I still do not realise that time is running out!
This has led me to think that I really should [I mean it this time] start on my schoolwork. However much I would love to take Art, one more year with totally new syllabus don't seem so appealing.
Anyway, I have a point to make. "Only Child" should be a term that is abolished forever.
However much other [lucky] ones who always think that their siblings should be abolished from the face of the Earth, hear the point fo view from our side.
It is not always easy without siblings. Though we have ultimate control of everything around the house [common sources of argument among siblngs being computers, telephone, televsion], these, I view as insignificant since being left alone without a confidante is much worse than fighting for the usage of these appliances.
Chidren have fun mostly when they are around others of the same age group, and those who gets left out normally displaying signs of self-pity. Children without siblings often find it harder to fit into the bigger group when they start since we do not have much exposure to group play unless the extended family is close and the cousins often visit [luckily for me that was the case due to weekly visits from the paternal family and to the maternal family].
Weird things happen to children without siblings.
I had this recurrent dream recently that had me as the second oldest child of the family. I have a younger that is on the less intelligent side, and another baby sister that always cry. The eldest sister is the sole breadwinner due to some reasons resulting in the parents' absence from the plot.
The first I vaguely remember as one where the four of us taking a walk somewhere. The second I have forgotten totally but I remember it happening. The most recent one happened today, whereby the three of us were waiting for eldest sister to drop off from work. It was something like the four of us sitting outside a shopping centre and the baby was constantly. Strangest part was the brother commented that I look like a demon because my nose is big [I have no idea why that happened].
It is always better to keep families complete for the sake of children [that's why my family will have four kids (2 boys 2 girls) and remain complete]. Not that I am blaming my mother's ex-husband or anything [its been quite a while] but this is just what I think.
On the issue of family, he who destroyed my bike shall not be spared.
Thursday, I walked from his home in Bukit Merah to the bike shop at Tanglin [about 4 km] with my school bag, file and the bike that cannot be rode, thinking that I would be able to go home after leaving the bike at the shop. At the bike shop, however, the man said that I either get new set of wheels, wait for him to import one wheel that is similar to mine for me, or change my bike totally. These choices mean that I have to wait till I have decided. So I once agin walked back to Bukit Merah [the same distance of 4 km] with the same load. Went home without acheiving after that. You so owe me a pair of gloves and shoes.
So, if you have anything to tell your sibling, say it as soon as possible, just in case. The feeling of having many things one wants to say to somebody very much trusted but not having the person available is vey tough [not that friends cannot provide that role, just that I am not that ready yet].
Go give your siblings a hug.
Later!
Foo Fighters- Learn To Fly
Apparently, 5 days has passed by since I last posted but I did not even realise that it has been such a long time already. This is a good illustration of what is going on.
I still do not realise that time is running out!
This has led me to think that I really should [I mean it this time] start on my schoolwork. However much I would love to take Art, one more year with totally new syllabus don't seem so appealing.
Anyway, I have a point to make. "Only Child" should be a term that is abolished forever.
However much other [lucky] ones who always think that their siblings should be abolished from the face of the Earth, hear the point fo view from our side.
It is not always easy without siblings. Though we have ultimate control of everything around the house [common sources of argument among siblngs being computers, telephone, televsion], these, I view as insignificant since being left alone without a confidante is much worse than fighting for the usage of these appliances.
Chidren have fun mostly when they are around others of the same age group, and those who gets left out normally displaying signs of self-pity. Children without siblings often find it harder to fit into the bigger group when they start since we do not have much exposure to group play unless the extended family is close and the cousins often visit [luckily for me that was the case due to weekly visits from the paternal family and to the maternal family].
Weird things happen to children without siblings.
I had this recurrent dream recently that had me as the second oldest child of the family. I have a younger that is on the less intelligent side, and another baby sister that always cry. The eldest sister is the sole breadwinner due to some reasons resulting in the parents' absence from the plot.
The first I vaguely remember as one where the four of us taking a walk somewhere. The second I have forgotten totally but I remember it happening. The most recent one happened today, whereby the three of us were waiting for eldest sister to drop off from work. It was something like the four of us sitting outside a shopping centre and the baby was constantly. Strangest part was the brother commented that I look like a demon because my nose is big [I have no idea why that happened].
It is always better to keep families complete for the sake of children [that's why my family will have four kids (2 boys 2 girls) and remain complete]. Not that I am blaming my mother's ex-husband or anything [its been quite a while] but this is just what I think.
On the issue of family, he who destroyed my bike shall not be spared.
Thursday, I walked from his home in Bukit Merah to the bike shop at Tanglin [about 4 km] with my school bag, file and the bike that cannot be rode, thinking that I would be able to go home after leaving the bike at the shop. At the bike shop, however, the man said that I either get new set of wheels, wait for him to import one wheel that is similar to mine for me, or change my bike totally. These choices mean that I have to wait till I have decided. So I once agin walked back to Bukit Merah [the same distance of 4 km] with the same load. Went home without acheiving after that. You so owe me a pair of gloves and shoes.
So, if you have anything to tell your sibling, say it as soon as possible, just in case. The feeling of having many things one wants to say to somebody very much trusted but not having the person available is vey tough [not that friends cannot provide that role, just that I am not that ready yet].
Go give your siblings a hug.
Later!
Foo Fighters- Learn To Fly
posted by Ergheiz at
8:59 PM
4 Comments:
well, as much as i can understand your unhappiness as being the only child, the thing i wanted to say is it really depends on what kind of siblings you have.
i mean, i wished i didn't have other siblings at all. [ see? we always desire the things we can't/don't have ]
u have all ur friends, so i guess it shldn't be too bad.. lol..
as for ur bike, if it was my stuff that got screwed i would have killed the person already. [ knowing my temper ] lol, i can't believe how patient u are..
so much for sharing things with ur siblings/cousins eh??
well, as much as i can understand your unhappiness as being the only child, the thing i wanted to say is it really depends on what kind of siblings you have.
i mean, i wished i didn't have other siblings at all. [ see? we always desire the things we can't/don't have ]
u have all ur friends, so i guess it shldn't be too bad.. lol..
as for ur bike, if it was my stuff that got screwed i would have killed the person already. [ knowing my temper ] lol, i can't believe how patient u are..
so much for sharing things with ur siblings/cousins eh??
well, it really depends on what kind of siblings you have.
haha, and i'm happy i've got a really caring brother. and i'm proud of his achievements.
but sometimes, i really wished i never have a brother when he flares up and hurl vulgarities at me.
well, you've got cousins and friends what. it won't be too bad lah
considering friends are becoming the modern day family, the cynic in me would tell you you aren't missing out on much.
but when i hear the wistfulness in your voice as you say,"so lucky," i find myself thinking, yes, indeed, so lucky of me.
there're a multitude of things you can share with your siblings -- just how exactly that annoying auntie always pinches your cheeks and calls you fat, or how frustrating it is when your parents don't understand you in that way, the unspoken set of rules by which one abides at home -- and not with your friends, not even with repeated, detailed explanations.
but there are a lot of things you can love about being in a family as small as yours. the closeness, the one-to-one conversation opportunities are things you'd never get in a family like mine, for instance. (:
at the end of the day, it's not the number of siblings you have (or whether you have siblings or not). it's really how you spend time with them and how much you're willing to love them.
(keeping in mind, of course, that interaction with peers is still highly important and friends shouldn't still be neglected, ha ha ha.)
whatever it is, take comfort in the fact that you've got fantastic friends and pseudo-siblings such as myself.
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